“Distant lover, lover. So many miles away. Heaven knows I long for youuuu” (singing). Marvin Gaye may have been referring to his lost love, but he nailed one thing…missing your lover is rough. In this day and age long distance relationships are the new black! With social media sites like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and Snapchat it’s easy to meet someone who lives hundreds of miles away from you. College is also a huge creator of long distance relationships. You meet in Biology and fall madly in love and then the inevitable happens: summer vacation or even worst graduation. So what are you supposed to do? You miss them! You long for their touch. FaceTime is not the same you will die if you have to go another day away from the love of your life. Too much? But you catch my drift. The truth is long distance relationships are hard work. Here are some tips to help make it a little easier.
1. Have a Plan
Hopefully the goal is not to stay long distance forever because let’s be honest that’s kind of depressing. Set REALISTIC goals for the relationship’s future. Decide who will move where or if you both will embark on a new journey together. Although you would love to move tomorrow be realistic with your expectations and decide on anywhere from six months to a year.
2.Spark it Up!
Long distance relationships sometimes lack an essential component of relationships…physical interaction, but don’t let that stop you! Have movie dates via Skype (Shh! Do not talk during the movie and don’t hog all the popcorn), FaceTime as much as possible, and most importantly make a conscience effort to keep your partner happy. It is very easy to feel alone sometimes in long distance relationships so do random things to show your partner that you are thinking of them. Below are examples of special things you both can do for one another:
- Movie nights via Skype or FaceTime
- “Open When” Letters
- Pizza Delivery during Regular Season/Playoff Games
- Random Hand Written Letters
- Edible Arrangements
- Message in a Bottle
- Mani/Pedi Groupons
- Game Tickets
- Favorite Team Sports Apparel
- Random Social Media Post
- Care Packages
- Build A Bear w. Voice Recordings
- Surprise Visits (Favorite)
- Random “I miss/love you” texts/calls
3. Cherish the Physical Moments
Every relationship will have arguments, but don’t let them dictate the atmosphere of your next visit. Let’s say you fought just before the drive to meet one another and you are super annoyed with one another. Stop! This may be the only time this month that you both will get to see one another so put the petty drama aside and truly enjoy one another’s company. The fighting can start again when you leave, although I don’t recommend that. -_- If you spend the quality time fighting you will regret it as soon as your partner leaves…trust me.
4. Think Positive
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. I know, I know it is very cliché, but that saying is very true. The intensity of seeing your partner after weeks of not seeing them in person will make that time more special. The best thing about long distance relationships is you get to strengthen the most important component of any relationship…communication. You have no choice but to talk to one another because honestly it’s all you have sometimes. Cuddling is nice, but learning the ins and outs of your partner is essential to any long lasting relationship.
Always remember, “Missing someone gets easier every day because even though you are one day further from the last time you saw them, you are one day closer to the next time you will.”